a friend of mine from san francisco sent me an email, stating how proud she is of her city for making a bold stand for equality. today burningbird writes:

Watching the story online and on TV about Gavin Newsom's carefully planned act of defiance against the State of California, the weekend of gay marriages in San Francisco, the ecstatic faces of the people married -- among all the bad news lately, it is a true bright spot.

i'm reminded of scott mckenzie's song "san francisco":

If you're goin' to San Francisco
Be sure to wear some flowers in your hair
If you're goin' to San Francisco
You're gonna meet some gentle people there

For those who come to San Francisco
Summertime will be a love-in there
In the streets of San Francisco
Gentle people with flowers in their hair
All across the nation
Such a strange vibration
People in motion
There's a whole generation
With a new explanation
People in motion, people in motion

For those who come to San Francisco
Be sure to wear some flowers in your hair
If you come to San Francisco
Summertime will be a love-in there

right now, it is indeed a love-in there, and that's great and all, but i think it's important for those of us who support gay rights to recognize that it's going to get worse before it gets better. andrew sullivan, a gay conservative writer who is in favor of gay marriage, writes:

I'm sure many of those newly married couples would also gladly go through the arrest procedure. Being thrown in jail for loving and committing to another person for life would highlight much of the injustice that now exists. The arrests would further the groundswell of empowerment that is now dawning on gay America. So bring it on. We shall overcome.

and thus ends the love-in. it's easy enough for sullivan to say "so bring it on. we shall overcome" as he stands on the sidelines watching this culture war play out. clearly he's not going to be arrested, or even brought to court to explain why he feels he deserves to be treated like a human being, but he at least recognizes that it's going to get ugly. the tears of joy are going to turn into tears of pain, as millions of americans are bluntly told that they are not deserving of the full rights granted to the rest of us.

it's getting better, but it will get worse.